Don’t Throw Your Child’s Party Before You Read This!

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

 

Planning my now three-and-a-half year old’s birthday party every year usually takes on all the stealth of a military mission. Cake ordered. Check. Dora topper for cake that birthday girl-to-be requested. Check again.  Every day it seems another item is ordered, planned or purchased. And it goes on and on until the very moment she gets her party on.

So, to help you put your own child’s party into action, here are a few steps I have taken to give my daughter a proper party her friends (and their parents) can enjoy.

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1) Send an Early Save the Date

After I cobble the guest list together, based on my daughter’s input, I make sure to send out an early save the date email (nothing fancy, simply covering the bases–What, When, Where and What Time. Now when I say I send the save the date out early, I mean usually two months before the party. Why so early? Because my daughter’s bday is in the Spring, like lots of her friends and classmates; and most parents actually do plan their social calendar that far in advance. This also gives me the opportunity to get the date scheduled for the party that I want before the other parents call dibs on it during the same popular birthday week.

2) Location Location Location

For my daughter’s one-year-birthday it was perfectly fine and acceptable to have her party at my home, with a few other babies (barely walking), and a local guitar-playing music teacher. Now that she just turned three-years-old, those days are long over. If you think you would enjoy having a bunch of screaming toddlers running all through your house, then have it. But don’t come crying to me when one of your guests flushes your new iPhone right down the toilet (true story, it happened to a friend of mine). You’re far better served by reserving a time at a play space or gym like Gymboree, Little Gym or Kidville, where the toddlers can run free and burn off that prodigious energy. Let it be the staff’s job to corral and entertain them…not yours.

3) Make a List of Preferred Presents

Inevitably, people will ask what to get your child? Be ready for them, with a short list of favorite characters from TV show and movies; and take notes on what your child likes to play with on play dates at other people’s homes.  In my case, I told people who asked that my daughter loves Dora (and the year before I told them she loved Elmo). I also mentioned what present from the line of Dora products she already had (the dolly with the pink streak in her hair, that came with the comb and attachable hair additions). I also told my parents that my daughter liked the Barbie guitar, she had seen (and appropriated for the afternoon) at her friend’s birthday party.

4) Get Crafty

Toddlers love to do crafts, so why not make it a part of the party. My daughter had made a door hanger at a get together, and I saw she enjoyed putting stickers and coloring on the cardboard paper. I knew I didn’t want to do a craft with a glue stick (it always gets on anything anyway, who are we kidding), so I browsed through the craft items at Oriental Trading, and came up with the perfect one: A small sippy cup with a removable insert that the parents could take out before washing the cup and then put back in. I spread crayons and markers on a table and tons of stickers and let the kids have at it, while eating their pizza and cake. They loved it; and so did the parents because it was one craft that the kids were able to do without the help of the adults present.

5) Get a Great Goody Bag Gift

A great goody bag is always a hit at a party. It leaves the kids something to look forward to and provides a signal that the party’s over for parents and kids alike. I check the $1.00 bins at Target; where I’ve found great attractive containers that I can use to fill with goodies like markers, washable tattoos, stickers, small balls, inexpensive sunglasses and other items. I can always depend on Oriental Trading for wonderful, budget-friendly items.

Because I just can’t stop at five, here are a few more tips I’ll throw in for free. Stick to pizza, cake and cupcakes for the food. Most children love pizza (and there are vegan options and options for those kids who are lactose-intolerant). Never have your toddler open his or her gifts in front of the other children (unless you want to see a sitcom-like play of “that’s mine,” “no, that’s mine,”. And finally, and this is really important: always send them home right after they have had cake. Wait too long, and you, and not their parents will be dealing with the aftermath of their sugar rush.

What kind of easy tips can you share about throwing your child a party?

 

 

 Dont Throw Your Childs Party Before You Read This!

About Estelle Erasmus

Estelle Erasmus is an award-winning journalist and former magazine editor-in-chief who is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post. Estelle blogs about life raising a young daughter in midlife at Musings on Motherhood & Midlife. She is the co-author of Beautiful Skin: Every Woman's Guide to Looking Her Best at Any Age (Adams Media), and has been a featured author in several anthologies. Estelle won BlogHer Voices of the Year awards in 2012 and 2014. She is a 2014 Disney Social Media Moms, and a 2014 National Geographic Kids Insider. She has spoken about publishing at Folio MidWest and iRetreat2014. She writes regularly on travel, parenting and lifestyle issues.

3 thoughts on “Don’t Throw Your Child’s Party Before You Read This!”

  1. Great tips! We always have a craft or two set up. These double as take-home/goody bag gifts. Two birds, one stone and all that. :p

    Chris

  2. Ha, ha! Estelle, we are soooo opposite on the childs b-day party spectrum! I gave my kids a party at our house each time they had one. Now, they didn’t get a big party every year, but we had a few, and I loved planning them, cooking the food for the kids, coming up with fun games and crafts and baking a unique cake (mostly because I’m not a great decorator, so I would do something that didn’t require me to do anything fancy).
    Camille had a tea party theme one year, and each child brought a book to exchange. She didn’t need any more Barbies, and her friends were all good readers, so that went over very well. I even got the girls to try some different than normal foods! They loved the sorbet in hollowed out orange cups.
    Phil got a construction party one year. His b-day is in August, so we did water games, and I filled big cookie sheets with salt and sand and tossed in mini construction trucks so the kids could push the material around and make their own construction sites. We had a dump truck cake, which is basically chocolate cake cut up in pieces, mixed with chocolate pudding and cookies, and spooned from the back of a big plastic dump truck. Everyone had a blast, even the parents!
    I know that for most people, it is too much, everyone is so busy and we have been to lots of fun b-day parties at the Y or at a gymnastics place …But Phil still remembers his “Tiger” cake (from Family Fun mag) and Camille the pinata daddy hung from the ceiling fan - and he ended up having to break (do they make those things from steel mesh)?
    This is a great topic, glad Crystal had a fabulous and fun birthday!

    1. Paula,
      That’s what makes the world go round, right? Well, I guess if you have a lot of space, and aren’t too worried about valuables it could work. Love some of your ideas; which I will use for smaller playdates, etc. I really think the dump truck cake is a clever and fun idea, that could work for girls as well as boys. And I love the construction party idea, too. Thanks for the “food for thought”!

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