Blame It On Barney

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

My daughter has a passion for the color purple. If an article of clothing doesn’t have some shade of purple in it, forget about it. She shakes her little head, tendrils of curls flying around, and says, “no, mommy. I want the purple shirt…purple pants…purple socks…purple backpack…purple sneakers.”

Ok Ok. I get it. You want it because its pretty? No. You want it because its functional? No. Oh, that’s right. You want it because its…purple!

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Loving the Color Purple

Now I must admit I was always a red girl, and for some reason as I’ve gotten older my loyalties have shifted to blue and green. I don’t have a problem with purple per se. What I have a problem with?  Identifying the need for an item solely based on its color.

I blame it on Barney! There, I said it. That adorable purple dinosaur who sang, danced and encouraged her to “use your imagination”, he’s the culprit in this purple kiddie caper.  But I’m to blame, too. Wasn’t I the mommy who sang along with him, encouraging my daughter to bond further to me with the hypnotic words from Barney’s theme song, “I love you, you love me, we’re a happy family“? Did she somehow in her developing baby brain connect the color purple with the feeling of love she gets from me and her daddy?

Of course I reassure myself that its just a phase she’s going through–and hope that when she falls in love and ties the knot one day it won’t be in a purple dress.
What is/was your child’s obsession?

My Birthday Ritual

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

Yesterday was my birthday. And just a little before midnight I engaged in a private little candle ceremony–the same ritual I’ve followed on my birthday for the past fifteen years.

Anyone can do the candle ceremony. In just a few short steps, it’s a cinch to create a personal ritual that focuses on gratitude and goals and starts your birthday off with a special spark.

I like to do the ceremony around fifteen minutes before midnight on the actual day of my birthday (not the night before). The energy of your birthday culminates by midnight, so I feel that it is the best time to start manifesting your desires.

Here are the steps:

1) Locate a candle. I usually use a long white tapered candle (white represents purity of thought), but this year I couldn’t find the white candles, so I improvised with a boxed green scented candle. I selected the green candle because this year I am very focused on growth, represented by the color green, in all areas of my life (business, spirituality, and relationships).

2). Visualize a protective shield around you (I always imagine a column of white light surrounding me), and then light the candle.

3) As you light the candle, loudly tell the universe (or your angels, whichever works for you) what you are grateful for in your life (if you aren’t the spontaneous type, or plan to do this after a night of partying, it might be helpful to write out your notes beforehand).

4) Then, ask for what you want the universe to provide for you in the upcoming year. This part is very personal (well, let’s admit it, the whole ceremony is very personal), and can entail anything from a new car (yes, you can ask for material items), to world peace, better relationships, anger management, love, whatever um, lights your fire.

5) Then, right around the time the clock strikes midnight, focus your intention at the flame of the candle, verbally summarize your asks, repeat your gratitude for everything you do have, and then I always finish by saying…so it shall be, and so it is, Amen (I know, very “Ten Commandments” of me). Then blow out the candle.

That’s my ritual; feel free to use it, or create your own….and what I asked for this year…well that’s personal.

Do you have any birthday rituals that you follow?

 

 

Rosanna Villaflor: Overcoming Obstacles and Break-Dancing Down Barriers for Kids

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As a woman who has a habit of breaking down barriers, first for herself, and now for others, 27-year-old Rossana Villaflor is a true role model who after a deprivation-filled childhood in the Philippines transformed her life in America with the help of a unique life skills curriculum called Overcoming Obstacles. Intent on giving back to the community, Rossana recently also founded a non-profit to bring dance and creative arts to inner city kids,Community for Urban Dance & Art (CUDA).

I spoke with Rossana right after she received an award at the 14th annual Women of Action awards ceremony in Jersey City, where women from the community are honored for their accomplishments and contributions to the city’s residents. Rossana was nominated by Councilman-At-Large Ronaldo R. Lavarro, Jr. for her positive energy and voluntary efforts and contributions to the community as an artist, break dancer, and advocate for the youth.

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Rosanna Villaflor
photo courtesy of Overcoming Obstacles

Can you tell me about your early childhood in the Philippines?

RV: My sisters (one is two years older than me, and one is five years older) and I were born and raised in the Philippines. When I was three my mother left us and came to America to work as a nurse. She had to make the sacrifice to provide a better life for us. My aunt raised us, and I didn’t see my mother again until I was nine years old. It was tough to communicate with my mother; because we didn’t own a telephone we had to travel an hour and a half to make a call. By 1994, my mom had saved up enough money to bring us over to the United States; eventually we ended up in Jersey City.

What was it like being in America?

We had come to America in the hopes of finding a better life; but we found it was tough to get that opportunity. I thought that my life in America would be a white picket fence and dogs; the reality was much different. We all lived in a small, one bedroom apartment in a bad area of town. To make ends meet my mom had to work nearly 24/7 to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table.

In the mid ’90s, there was a zero tolerance by the police in New York City for gangs; so many of the gangs hopped the train and traveled to Newark and Jersey City. As an impressionable young kid, with next to no supervision, the only people I had to look up to were gang members. My 8th grade guidance counselor soon saw that I was not hanging out with the right crowd. So she introduced me to The Fifteen Together Program, a district wide program that tackled dropout rates and increased graduation rates, using the main curriculum of Overcoming Obstacles. It changed my outlook; especially seeing that someone cared enough to show me a better way.

I learned life skills such as conflict resolution, the power of positive thinking and visualization; how to deal with peer pressure and compromising situations, and how to strategically avoid fights. Through thoughtful discussion, role-playing activities, and the opportunity to lead fellow students, the program helped me envision long-term goals while taking small steps to achieve them.

Lacking the decision making and communication skills to withstand the pressures of living in a rough environment, I could have easily fallen into a destructive lifestyle. When I received the $10,000 scholarship from Overcoming Obstacles in 2004, as part of the organization’s annual Achievement Awards (she wrote an essay on how she used good decisions to overcome challenges and set goals to avoid negative situations) I was honored because I had always thought scholarships were purely academic or artistic or athletic in nature; I never thought someone could be recognized just for being a good person, being positive and making smart decisions. I used the funds to pursue a degree in fine arts from New Jersey City University and worked for Overcoming Obstacles while in school. Upon graduating, I joined the organization full-time.

What is your role at the Overcoming Obstacles?

I’m the Manager of Educational Outreach and Professional Development. Overcoming Obstacles is available at no cost thanks to a Gifting Initiative made possible by the Community for Education Foundation. Formally announced in January 2012, the goal of the initiative is to make life skills instruction part of every student’s basic education across the country.

In my position I work with NYC public schools and schools in nearby areas to train the staff help them learn about the impact of the program and see how it can fit into their school structure and schedule. Then I help educators implement the curriculum that helped me to succeed and show them how to meet their goals for student achievement.

Why did you co-found the non-profit CUDA?

I co-founded the non-profit Community for Urban Dance & Art (CUDA), with my friends from high school. We wanted to give back to the community so we inventoried our skills, and realized we were great at break dancing and art projects. So we started providing workshops in those areas to the kids in our community. The mission of CUDA is to stimulate the talents of the students, enhance their self-confidence and personal growth, and amplify their appreciation for the visual and performing arts through positive and creative outlets. I used the service learning handbook from Overcoming Obstacles to get the students engaged. Right now we are in our infancy stage; we have performed at community events like the HIV/AIDS awareness day; walk for Hudson Cradle, for abandoned babies with AIDS. We are in the process of developing our workshops and goal-setting skills, as well as the strategy plan for implementation. It’s exciting for me to be using the skills I learned and doing something that I’m passionate about.

What are your plans for the future?

I want to continue doing what I’m doing with Overcoming Obstacles. It will also help with the bullying problem in schools; students need to be more assertive and self-confident to even begin to deal with the issue of bullying. For CUDA, I’d like to expand the program and take on a key role in providing the workshops to schools and communities so that kids can channel their energy into artistic pursuits: painting murals, dancing and winning competitions; writing music and poetry

What advice can you give to young women who are in your former situation?

I think I would tell them, be kind to yourself. When kids feel bad or insecure they inflict pain on other people.This is why Overcoming Obstacles needs to be in every middle school and high schoolNo child should be deprived of learning the vital skills they need to rise above their struggles.

Rossana is truly a young woman to watch.

Is there someone you would like to acknowledge who gives back to the community?

*This article originally appeared on http:www.examiner.com

Don’t Throw Your Child’s Party Before You Read This!

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

 

Planning my now three-and-a-half year old’s birthday party every year usually takes on all the stealth of a military mission. Cake ordered. Check. Dora topper for cake that birthday girl-to-be requested. Check again.  Every day it seems another item is ordered, planned or purchased. And it goes on and on until the very moment she gets her party on.

So, to help you put your own child’s party into action, here are a few steps I have taken to give my daughter a proper party her friends (and their parents) can enjoy.

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1) Send an Early Save the Date

After I cobble the guest list together, based on my daughter’s input, I make sure to send out an early save the date email (nothing fancy, simply covering the bases–What, When, Where and What Time. Now when I say I send the save the date out early, I mean usually two months before the party. Why so early? Because my daughter’s bday is in the Spring, like lots of her friends and classmates; and most parents actually do plan their social calendar that far in advance. This also gives me the opportunity to get the date scheduled for the party that I want before the other parents call dibs on it during the same popular birthday week.

2) Location Location Location

For my daughter’s one-year-birthday it was perfectly fine and acceptable to have her party at my home, with a few other babies (barely walking), and a local guitar-playing music teacher. Now that she just turned three-years-old, those days are long over. If you think you would enjoy having a bunch of screaming toddlers running all through your house, then have it. But don’t come crying to me when one of your guests flushes your new iPhone right down the toilet (true story, it happened to a friend of mine). You’re far better served by reserving a time at a play space or gym like Gymboree, Little Gym or Kidville, where the toddlers can run free and burn off that prodigious energy. Let it be the staff’s job to corral and entertain them…not yours.

3) Make a List of Preferred Presents

Inevitably, people will ask what to get your child? Be ready for them, with a short list of favorite characters from TV show and movies; and take notes on what your child likes to play with on play dates at other people’s homes.  In my case, I told people who asked that my daughter loves Dora (and the year before I told them she loved Elmo). I also mentioned what present from the line of Dora products she already had (the dolly with the pink streak in her hair, that came with the comb and attachable hair additions). I also told my parents that my daughter liked the Barbie guitar, she had seen (and appropriated for the afternoon) at her friend’s birthday party.

4) Get Crafty

Toddlers love to do crafts, so why not make it a part of the party. My daughter had made a door hanger at a get together, and I saw she enjoyed putting stickers and coloring on the cardboard paper. I knew I didn’t want to do a craft with a glue stick (it always gets on anything anyway, who are we kidding), so I browsed through the craft items at Oriental Trading, and came up with the perfect one: A small sippy cup with a removable insert that the parents could take out before washing the cup and then put back in. I spread crayons and markers on a table and tons of stickers and let the kids have at it, while eating their pizza and cake. They loved it; and so did the parents because it was one craft that the kids were able to do without the help of the adults present.

5) Get a Great Goody Bag Gift

A great goody bag is always a hit at a party. It leaves the kids something to look forward to and provides a signal that the party’s over for parents and kids alike. I check the $1.00 bins at Target; where I’ve found great attractive containers that I can use to fill with goodies like markers, washable tattoos, stickers, small balls, inexpensive sunglasses and other items. I can always depend on Oriental Trading for wonderful, budget-friendly items.

Because I just can’t stop at five, here are a few more tips I’ll throw in for free. Stick to pizza, cake and cupcakes for the food. Most children love pizza (and there are vegan options and options for those kids who are lactose-intolerant). Never have your toddler open his or her gifts in front of the other children (unless you want to see a sitcom-like play of “that’s mine,” “no, that’s mine,”. And finally, and this is really important: always send them home right after they have had cake. Wait too long, and you, and not their parents will be dealing with the aftermath of their sugar rush.

What kind of easy tips can you share about throwing your child a party?

 

 

How to Take a Great Picture

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

With the holiday season just two short months away, my mind has been on where will we hold our annual holiday card photo shoot. For the past two years, we’ve had a professional photographer take our shots, after an initial disappointing experience at a local factory studio (yes, the one near Sears).

We’ve used Tiny Prints for our cards, since my daughter’s birth announcement,  and they haven’t disappointed us, yet.  We are considering trying Shutterfly as well, especially since they did such a nice job with the Listen to Your Mother photo book.

Last year we got wonderful pictures at a local park on a crisp, fall day. The juxtaposition of the colors of the leaves, with the sunlight glinting off the stone sculpture added to a wonderful photo montage.

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Find Your Place in the Sun: Natural sunlight adds a wonderful glow to photos, and there are so many fun locations to look into. Start by canvassing your local parks, playgrounds,  botanical gardens, or nature centers to find just the right spot to shoot your photos.

Nurture Nature: I like the concept of showing a child positioned next to a grand natural element, such as a winding river, continuous fields of flowers, or great and stately oak trees. Props such as wooden swings or gazebos, or a sculpture can also add drama to a photo.

Get Down: Professional photographers often get down to their little subjects eye level for the best (most expressive) pictures. Shooting from overhead is never a good idea, you will make your subject look small and its an unnatural vantage point and will never display your child’s personality attractively.

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Let’s Get Physical: One of my favorite shots from our photo shoot last year, was one of our entire family walking down a flight of stone steps in sync. It wasn’t the shot that we ultimately used for our card, but the actual physical work involved, got us all to relax and set the stage for the next setup shot (on a bench) which we ultimately used. Other activities that could work: blowing bubbles, picking flowers, chasing a balloon or kite.

You get the picture!

What do you think makes a good holiday photo?

Please let me know your thoughts.

 

 

Finding a Cool Costume This Halloween

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

I don’t know about you, but I normally buy my daughter’s Halloween costume well before October. In fact,  It’s not uncommon for me to decide what she’s wearing in mid to late August.

She’s had some cute costumes. When she was six months old, she was a Fairy, at a year and a half, she was a Pumpkin Princess, and last year she was a Ladybug.

Up till now what I wanted her to wear has been the deciding factor.

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At six months, she was a fairy

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Here’s our little Pumpkin Princess

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Ladybug Power!

But the times they are a changin!

This year, I haven’t bought her a costume yet because my daughter has been weighing in with her opinions on what she should wear.

And although I normally encourage her to make her own choices (within reason) this time around I’ve been fighting it.

First she wanted to be a Dragonfly. “You’re sure you want to be another bug, I asked her, “last year you were a Ladybug, remember?” Then she decided to be a princess. “You’re going to be a Princess when we go back to Disney World this year, I reminded her. ” Are you sure you still want to be a Princess for Halloween?”

Meanwhile, she grabs catalogs that come in the mail and creates her own vision board by folding down the pages showing costumes she likes. And what she likes runs the gamut from Princess dresses to Spiderman, to some sort of jester-looking character. Sheesh!

It might be a while till we’ve figured it out. Luckily for us, there are online stores like Anytime Costumes.com which offers a variety of  KIDS / TODDLER COSTUMES Finding a Cool Costume This Halloween so whatever she decides, (whether bug, bird, Princess or something in between) I won’t get stuck dressing her from the leftovers from my local convenience store’s  bargain basement section.

What are your kids dressing as this Halloween, and when and where do you shop for their  costumes?



 Finding a Cool Costume This Halloween

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All Choked Up about Motherhood

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

I am so honored to share with you the video of me reading my original essay, And She Danced about my daughter at the first ever New York City production of Listen to Your Mother, the show that gives Motherhood a Voice.

What is it about the transitions of your child/children that get you all choked up?

 

 

 

Open Your Eyes

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

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Back in the baby days

Most people I know are aware that I’m a journalist, but few people know I got my start in journalism as a beauty writer. In fact, I co-authored the book Beautiful Skin: Every Woman’s Guide to Looking Her Best at Any Age with prominent dermatologist David Bank, MD.

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Back when I was the associate beauty editor at Woman’s World (my first job in publishing), I would spend hours in the beauty closet (which was big as a small apartment) trying on makeup and testing skincare products before I wrote about them. Although I’ve suffered from rosacea, since I was in my twenties, I believe that testing some early version alpha hydroxy products on my oh-so-sensitive skin exacerbated that condition.

What really always got me, though were eye makeup products. Although my lashes are dark, they curl straight down, which necessitates my need to use an eyelash curler at all times, lest I look like I’m peering through a thicket. During my pregnancy and for the first year, it was hard for me to summon the energy to put on any makeup on at all, but now that my daughter is three, I’m rediscovering makeup, particularly eye makeup in a big way.

My newest obsession, trying to make my eyes look bigger, my eyelashes longer. I love the look of false lashes, but hate the “work” of putting them on, only to find one or both drooping off my eye in the middle of dinner or a work-related function.

So, I was happy to find the products by Too Faced Cosmetics, especially their 3*Way Lash Lining Tool, Too Faced FALL Collection Introduces 3*Way Lash Lining Tool. Make Lash Emphasizing Dots, Tight-Lining And Traditional Lash-Lining Easy As 1-2-3. Open Your Eyesthat uses a three tiny tips to offer you the opportunity to create beautifully lined eyes with precision. Trust me, I’m a total dud in the eye-lining department; and often look like a raccoon after multiple attempts, so this product makes you look like an expert (even if you’re more fumble fingered than adept, like me). I’m also a fan of Better Than False Lashes, by Too Faced, part of the new Fall Collection, Discover The Art of Sexy. Shop Too Faced NEW Fall 2012 Collection Now! Open Your Eyeswhich are brush on false lashes that actually extend the length of your lash and adhere for longer than it takes to get to the appetizers.

 

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Best of all: As per the Too Faced website, if you put in the code: INSUREME with your order, you will get a free sample of their best-selling eye shadow primer Shadow Insurance.

Here’s looking at you!

What eye makeup (or other) products do you find you can’t live without?

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Window into the World of Women Who Make a Difference

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

 

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These women offer a window into their world, which serves to lift up the rest of us.

Although nothing in my mind beats meeting someone face to face and having a good, old, honest conversation, sometimes distance gets in the way.

That’s why for my column in examiner.com, I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing via phone several fascinating and successful women and mothers who live across the country from me.

The insight I have gleaned from their brilliant minds and business acumen, which I have in turn been able share with my readers has been immeasurable.

Check out my interview with one of the three BlogHer co-founders, Jory Des Jardins who was brave enough to step outside of the expected corporate path to make her own way.

And Kristin Maschka,  the amazing author of the life-changing book,This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today A Window into the World of Women Who Make a Difference
who is working hard to raise consciousness and change public policy about the role of mothers and parents in society.

Clearly, even when you are not face to face with someone,  it is always still possible to see eye to eye.

What women do you know or admire who are working to, or have changed the world?  

 

 

What I See When I Look at Me (In the style of Dr. Seuss)

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

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My daughter loves her Dr. Seuss books. So…in the spirit of Dr. Seuss I have composed a poem.

 

What do I see when I look at me?

I see a daughter, a sister, a mother

You might be those too, but I’m like no other

That’s what I see when I look at me

 

What else do I see when I look at me?

I see a wife, with a partner for life

But that doesn’t mean that she hasn’t faced strife

Raising a child isn’t easy you know

When daddy’s at work, mommy does run the show

As for sanity I truly hope mine doesn’t  go!

 

No it cannot go.

No it must not go

Though we co-parent, mommy must run the show!

 

What else do I see when I look at me?

I see an artist and activist, too

I write and persuade, it’s the best work I do

That’s what I see when I look at me

That’s what the world sees when they look at me

 

And time marches on

And time marches on

There’s so much to do as the days move along

 

So, now pray tell me

Most definitely

What do you see when you look at me?’

 

 

 

 

 

Savoring the Soul of Summer

By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

I never really appreciated the Summer season until I had my daughter.

Sure, before I had a baby,  I periodically enjoyed the beach (especially jumping in the waves), drinking coolers on the balcony while I watched the sun set, and the absence of the kind of daily stress that seems to go hand in hand with the advent of Fall and the blustery cold days of Winter.

But, I never really took it all in.

Now, seeing the summer through my daughter’s eyes, I value the slowed down pace and opportunity to relax it offered our family like never before.

This summer was particularly special because of these reasons:

Unscheduled Time: No call to rush to pre-school; days were spent without a plan, and that was just fine with us. We had no major schedules and like other parents took full advantage. The cool, refreshing waters of our pool beckoned, spontaneous day trips to places like the Central Park Zoo and LBI to visit friends provided bursts of excitement.

A Visit from Oumie: Her oumie (South African for grandmother) came to visit us from Australia. My daughter sees her grandparents (my parents) quite often, but the last time she saw her oumie was when she was a little less than three months old. The visit really gave them an opportunity to further solidify the bond they had built over Skype. Oumie discovered my daughter’s love for putting together puzzles, and together they explored our playground, did errands and went shopping. And best of all, oumie was here watching my daughter while I attended BlogHer12.

Trip to the Cape: Our family had a lovely vacation in Cape May, NJ, where we walked along the boardwalk, enjoyed a cabana on the beach, played miniature golf, rode a bicycle built for three, played games at the arcade (my husband enjoyed winning a variety of stuffed animals for her ever-growing menagerie), shopped the vendors (she picked out a purple sundress like a little shopping maven), and ate ice cream every day.

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Mini-golf in Cape May

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Biking by the Boardwalk

Her First Movie Premiere: We were invited to the New York premiere of The Oogieloves, where my daughter attended a carnival-like party resplendent with colorfully dressed men and women on stilts, overflowing candy stands, photo booths, and smoothie stations. It all culminated with the movie, where my daughter danced and sang in the aisles along with the other children. Every time she sees an ad she yells out Oogielovers (yes, she says lovers, not loves).

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One of the Oogieloves!

With Labor Day tomorrow, pre-school starting next week, and apple picking on the horizon, I realize that these lazy days of summer are ending, and my head is once again starting to percolate with all my plans for the year ahead. I’ve had a brief respite this summer, but now its time to get on with it. My plans include writing more magazine articles, increasing my blogging (thanks NaBloPoMo), and working with the rest of the Board of Directors of the national non-profit Mothers & More to move our mission forward and take our organization to the next level.

So, so long Summer. I’ll miss  you.

Hello, Schedule. We’re back on.

Well, the good news is since school is starting, I’m now available for lunch. Any takers?

 What are your feelings about summer ending?


My Daughter’s Eyes

 

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By Estelle Sobel Erasmus

I look into my daughter’s eyes and I see myself reflected in them. But more than that…I see all the colors of emotion that a three-year old is capable of.

I see joy: in the fact that she can swim the length of an Olympic-size pool (albeit, supported by a floatie).

I see trust in men (whether I’m comfortable with that or not is another story). The only reason she is so comfortable with men is because of her close relationship with my husband; which sometimes leaves me feeling like a third wheel, but I oddly enough, I would have it no other way.

I see certainty, that she can rest in the comfort of my love; that I will be there to catch her (and not just because I hover, which I do).

I see a zest for life, every time we dance together for no reason at all, or because she has picked up my habit of making up songs and singing them to herself and others.

I see everything that I was not, and everything I once was, and yet we are completely different people.

I see that one day she will fly away, and I will look after her with tearful pride, knowing that every day she has been in our care, my husband and I have worked with her to build to that moment.

For more about my daughter: And She Danced

Then:

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And now:

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This poem reflects the way we are raising her:

On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, 
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might 
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

QUESTION:

What do you see when you look in your child/children’s eyes?

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